Jan. 10, 2007
We cherish every minute that we had with you
from the day you were born.
We will always try to live up to your sweetness,
caring and wisdom. Your beautiful hazel eyes
will always be shining every where we turn and
we know that they will always be watching over
us and protecting us. Your presence was like
an enormous hug that made everything right even
when it seemed wrong.
You were giving and generous beyond belief:
you embraced everybody that you knew, even as
a child. Anyone that came to play with you in
our house left with the toys that you would
give them to keep.
You have given us more happiness and pride than
anyone can ever know. You had your father’s
sense of humor, friendly personality and optimism
and your mother’s love of music, art,
fashion, literature and creativity, plus dozens
of other gifts that were uniquely your own.
You learned to play trumpet and taught yourself
guitar and keyboard. Your paintings, gourmet
cooking and knowledge of wines astounded people.
Everyone knew that you were brilliant with computers
and business technology and you had amazing
organizational and leadership skills. In fact,
you were a success at anything that you set
your mind to. Your thirst for knowledge and
your love of sharing knowledge that knowledge
with others was limitless: you always offered
to help anyone who needed your expertise, whether
it was for finding bargains on Ebay, repairing
people’s computers, procuring Cuban cigars,
setting up a website for non-profit organizations
or consulting on satellite encryption for the
FBI. Nothing was ever too much of an imposition.
One of your greatest personal assets was your
friendliness and poise. From the time you were
a child, you loved to strike up a conversation
with even the most accomplished professionals.
The year you were 14 and we had reservations
to go skiing in Vail you were recovering from
a knee injury but insisted we go anyway because
you knew how much we loved skiing and you always
found fun things to do anywhere we traveled.
You never complained once about your knee. In
fact, by the second day, we found you cheerfully
giving stock tips to the hotel managers and
upgrading the hotel’s mainframe computer.
In your new apartment building, the Mariners,
in Edgewater, New Jersey, where you had just
taken an apartment, the management staff told
us that you were the world’s best tenant
and everyone from the management, maintenance
crew and the other residents called you “the
Mayor of the building.” We just learned
that the entire building got together this week
and planted 8 trees in Israel in your honor.
You were so neat and organized and were always
focused on a career track. Who can forget when
your third grade teacher asked every student
in your class what they wanted to be when they
grew up? Most responded predictably: “policeman,”
“actor,” “model“, and
the like. You, on the other hand, stunned everyone
by declaring, without hesitation, “I want
to be on the cover of Forbes Magazine by the
time I am thirty”! You had what it takes
and undoubtedly would have achieved that goal
had you not been taken from us way too soon.
At age 11, you were the youngest student ever
accepted at Columbia University’s advanced
computer graphics program and we found out that
a prerequisite was Calculus, (your class in
Tenafly was only learning fractions,). Totally
non-plused, you said, No Problem, Mom! You led
me into the college book store, bought a Calculus
For Dummies book, taught yourself Calculus in
less than a week and wound up getting an A the
course. You were always teaching yourself an
amazing array of knowledge, and just last week
surprised us by announcing that you were learning
Mandarin, to help your business career down
While in High School, you were chosen to represent
the entire state of New Jersey in the National
Student Leadership Program in Washington DC,
where you met with Alan Greenspan, members of
the Supreme Court and other dignitaries. You
were so impressive, that the following year,
you were invited back by the White House to
represent the U.S. as an Ambassador of Young
Business Students on a tour of China.
Everyone was in awe of your academic genius,
but an equally special gift was your boundless
love. You loved us both so much, far more than
any child has ever loved his parents. You were
dad’s best friend and loved to treat him
to occasional dad and Jordan getaways. No matter
how busy you were, you phoned dad several times
a day just to see how his day was going and
he called you as well. Dad always bragged to
everyone how you were his best friend and right
You also did everything you could to make my
life as enjoyable as possible, even thoughtful
little gestures things like turning on the heat
in the hall way every morning before I awoke
up so I wouldn’t be chilly on my way to
breakfast. Our mommy–Jordan trips were
filled will hugs and hilarity, whether it was
a day trip to the Museum of Natural History
or the Metropolitan Opera, or a week-long jaunt
in the Monte Carlo where you helped navigate
that insanely winding mountain road to Italy.
Since you were five years old, every time it
was my birthday, you would save up your allowance
to send me a corsage and take me to a fabulous
restaurant, insisting that the two of us dressed
up to the nines. You even flew in from college
in Indiana every March for our special mommy-Jordan
birth tradition and promised me that wherever
you or I were in the world on March 22, you
would meet me to take me out for my birthday.
It shatters my heart to know that we can never
have those marvelous birthday celebrations again.
You even loved our pets with all of your heart.
Our sheepdog, Oreo has been sitting outside
your room looking for you all week. You had
so much love to give, we can only imagine what
an incredible father and husband you would have
tried to give you everything that we
could, not just material things, but values
and a genuine love of humanity. And no matter
how much we gave you, you were never spoiled
and appreciated everything. Even as a young
adult, literally every single time we would
go out for a meal, even breakfast at a local
diner, afterwards you would always say, “Thanks
mom and dad.”
A light has gone out in our hearts and it will
never burn as brilliantly again. But every day
and everywhere we go, we will have a treasure
trove of memories of our years with you. We
will never forget the laughter, the joy, and
the indelible love that we shared as a family.
Years from now, I’ll still see your soft
little baby hand reaching up for my hand and
saying, “I love you so much mommy, I’m
glad we were born together.” Dad and I
will never forget our wonderful family trips
far and near and the many family and neighbors
get-togethers, all of which were made so much
more special because you were part of them.
Goodbye, our sweet, beautiful child, the light
of our lives.
We know you are in heaven, shaking hands with
everyone and probably repairing computers and
creating a website.
Mom and Dad
CHILD AND YOURS
I'll lend you for a little time
A Child of Mine, he said
For you to love the while he lives
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years
Or twenty two or three
But will you, 'til I call him back.
Take care of him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you
And should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
As solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay
Since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down here
I want this child to learn.
I've looked this wide world over
In search of teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd Life's lanes
I have chosen you.
Now will you give him all your love
Nor think the labor vain
And hate me when I come to call
To take him back again.
I fancy that I heard them say:
Dear Lord, thy will be done.
For all the joy this child will bring
The risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness
We'll love him while we may
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
And should the Angels call for him
Much sooner than we planned
We'll brave the bitter grief that came
And try to understand.